Life is all about taking along people with you. It could be work or play. You should learn to take your team along with you. That is your measure of success. People love it when you do so. How do you do this in life? No school has ever taught you how to do it. Yes, you never learn these things in school. You have to attend a bigger school known as LIFE that will certainly teach you these aspects. You can also learn such things from psychological development courses conducted by Landmark Forum. This is how they drive home the point using short funny and inspiring stories.
Once there was a young boy in a village. He had the gift of running extremely fast. He had lots of stamina s well. He used to win whichever race he participated in. Naturally, people used to cheer him for that. One day as usual, he challenged people to have a race with him. Two men volunteered. They obviously lost the race. The crowd started cheering for him wildly.
He wanted more, so he threw the challenge again. Two more young and fit men came forward to accept the challenge. They lost the race promptly. The crowd started cheering for him again. He threw the challenge again. He was addicted to people cheering for him. An old man was watching all this from a distance. He moved forward and got two new contestants, an old frail lady and a blind man.
The young boy protested that this was no race at all. The old man insisted him to run. There are no prizes for guessing who won. However, he found out that not a single person cheered when he finished the race. He was stunned. He looked behind and saw that the two competitors did not even start the race. He went to the old man as asked him what the matter was.
The old man smiled and asked him to race again, but with a condition. This time, he had to finish the race together with the two competitors. The boy understood and agreed. He gently took the hands of the old lady and the blind man and started walking at their pace. They crossed the finishing line together. This time, the flurry of clapping was unbelievable. The boy had never received such applause. He asked the old man for the reason for the same.
The old man replied that by taking the two contestants together with him, he had won much more than just the race. The crowd did not cheer for any winner in this race because there is no winner. You have left your ego at the sides and helped your team mates cross the line together. This is the biggest ever victory you will achieve in life.
Landmark Forum uses such beautiful snippets to drive home certain important lessons in life. People remember such lessons when you illustrate it with examples. Just giving out a lecture would never have helped at all.
Which is more satisfying, ‘Giving or receiving’? This depends on the situation. However, one must say that being able to give something is always a more satisfying feeling than giving. Secondly, it depends on how much you give. Giving can give you an exhilarating feeling. It does not come on its own. One is born with this trait. It is difficult to learn something that one is not accustomed to their nature. Landmark Forum tries to drive this point home using some beautiful examples. We shall see some of them here.
There was a small boy who approached an ice cream parlor with the intention of having a Sundae. The parlor was crowded and many people were waiting for their chance to sit. The boy stood patiently in the queue. When his turn came to have a seat, he proceeded to do so. The waitress was working since morning. She was not is a very good mood. She asked the boy for his order.
He asked her, “What is the cost of a Sundae?” She said that a Sundae costs 50 cents. The boy started counting his coins. The other people were getting impatient. The boy went about with his job calmly and found out that he does not have enough. He then asked for the price of a plain ice cream. She was getting impatient, but she replied that it costs 35 cents. The boy ordered for the plain ice cream. She went about murmuring that people do not have enough money but still harbor great dreams.
She placed the ice cream on his table. The boy had his fill, kept the tip and walked off after paying the bill. The waitress started weeping on seeing what the boy had left behind. He left behind everything he had, 15 cents. The boy could have very well had his Sundae. There is no rule that says it is mandatory to tip the waitress. The boy could have had his Sundae and paid for the same without having to worry about tipping her. She cried because the little boy made the sacrifice of settling for the plain ice cream just to be able to tip her.
What is the moral of the story? People might argue that the waitresses do not need tips as they are paid to serve people. That is not our topic of discussion. Our discussion is about the joy the boy got on giving the tip. It is more commendable because the boy gave everything he had.
Now, we come to the statement that the satisfaction depends on how much you give. If a millionaire leaves a tip of $1000 and a poor woman $5 out of her meager salary, which one is more valuable? The second one is more valuable because the $5 might be the only money left with the woman. She has given more than what the millionaire has given. The quality of her donation is better.
You get to learn about such stories in the Landmark Forum courses. They can serve as an eye opener to all.
Managing human relations is the toughest job for any budding corporate professional. He is just out of college and trying to find his feet in the corporate world. An assignment in the junior or middle management grade in a corporate entity is a literal trial by fire for this young professional. He has to contend with his superiors at the higher end of the ladder. At the same time he has to handle the people below him in the hierarchy as well. He is at real crossroads in his life. The situation demands that he use a lot of tact. At such a juncture, the young professional could do well to have a crash course in human relations. The Landmark Forum provides just such a course that can help him immensely.
The problem with the education system worldwide is that it does not prepare the young professional for such a situation in life. One has to learn from experience or by reading books on human psychology. However, that does not give him practical knowledge of the subject. At the landmark Forum, he gets a feel of the real situation in life because he gets a chance to share his experiences with other participants. Everyone would have gone through such a situation in life. They might have learned to tackle the problem in the hard way. Such people would love to share their experiences with others. You can learn a lot from their experiences.
At the Forum, the coordinator encourages the professional to come on the stage and highlight his problems in front of the audience. Many people try to avoid discussing their problems in public but this is one of the best means to solve the issue. You do not have the solution on hand. Therefore, it does not do you any harm to try to find a solution elsewhere by utilizing different means.
One has to admit that the professional has to walk a tight rope balancing his relations with his subordinates and his superiors. They require diametrically opposite type of handling. The superiors have a tremendous ego. The trick lies in pampering their ego. However, the subordinates need a different type of handling. The problem with the subordinates is that they might not be used to report to an immediate superior much younger than they are. It will take time for them to accept your leadership. However, once they begin to realize that you have the potential to lead them, they can be easy to handle. The trick is in giving the credit where it is due. A few kind words of genuine praise can do the trick. You might just not be able to do so with your seniors. The situation might demand you to resort to flattery at times. However, if you have to move up the corporate ladder, you should not hesitate to do so either.
Reading a couple of Landmark Forum reviews before enrolling for the course can ease up the pressure a great deal.